I can say with confidence that the
moment a person truly starts down the path of self-discovery, they will never
turn back. Many may ask the question, “What is self-discovery?” or “What do you
mean you don’t know who you are?
Self-discovery means a becoming
aware of one’s true potential, character, motives, etc.
I know for sure is that I have
been very hard on myself for most of my life. I have not been truthful with
myself and have had unrealistic expectations therefore, setting myself up for
disappointment. I am slowly becoming calmer, more aware and more
tolerant. I am learning how to pay attention to my feelings and understand
myself better
I suggest some terms to sort your self
Taking
stock of your life
Spending time in a place where you can be
yourself is a good way to identify what makes you, you. Try going to your favorite
place in nature, or spending time near people who get you.
Make
a list of your priorities
Spend time thinking about your priorities
divorced from what you know your current obligations are. Take note of the
happiest moments in your life, and prioritize the parts of your life that
deliver these moments to you.
Write
out daily schedule
You have this schedule, see if your priorities
are reflected in your daily activity or not. Can you draw links between what
you cherish and what you know must be taken care of each day.
Think about your relationships
To live without getting overwhelmed or confused
about what your priorities are, it is crucial to surround yourself with people
who make you feel comfortable enough to be confident and creative. The next
time you go out, be extra mindful of who gives you energy and who makes talking
feel like a chore. This will bring out your gut feelings about whose presence
really nourishes you, making it easier to spend your time feeling boosted
rather than obligated in relation to others.
Spend time by yourself
Make checking in with yourself and your
priorities a regular occurrence. Imagine that you are hanging out with a dear
friend to whom you can vent your deepest insecurities and questions about the
direction of your life. Now, see that you can be that friend to yourself. If
you are as kind and understanding as your friend would be, you can expect an
even greater degree of intimacy and understanding than you ever could from another
person’s.
Start each day with a to-do list
Lists are a great way to get rid of feelings of
chaos and overwhelm. They also help manage stress by giving you a visual of how
much you really need to do. When you use your to-do list as a starting off
point, you can begin to see how much room you have to re-negotiate your daily
activities. Once you see your to-do list, rearrange the items so that things
that are important to you and your happiness come before things that you
normally consider urgent.
